“Do you like him?” Yvette responded with “ I do, but I’m not going to ask him out, I’m a girl! I don’t want him to think I’m desperate.” In another occasion my cousin was asked “you have been with him for 7 years already, why don’t you marry him?” She also answered this with “I'm the woman here, I'm just waiting for him to pop with the question and give me the ring” Proving that women are not ready to be fully equal to men. Although there are many feminist groups fighting to equality in the work force, and in other areas of their daily life, most of them are not willing to do the things men are traditionally expected to do. If they want to be accepted in society just as men are they have to also start to open the door for the guys, in a date pay for them, and give them money so they can go shop with their friends.

So what does equality really mean? According to the Webster dictionary it means “The state or quality of being equal;  correspondence in quantity, degree, value, rank, or ability. This would mean that if we were all equal we would have to do the same types of jobs, be able to deal with things the same way and think the same way. Realistically that is impossible to do even if we were talking about the same gender. According to the Business Management 101 “Women in Japan typically leave the workforce after marriage. Men and women also differ in the types of activities they want to perform in their jobs. These differences tend to be consistent with typical gender-stereotypes and roles versus discriminatory hiring practices. Job seekers may believe that they cannot succeed in an occupation this is dominated by the other sex, so they do not even try.” this shows how women are used to the idea of this roles that exist, and as mention they don’t even try to be part of a company that is male dominant. If women were ready to be equal they would actually do anything possible to get this jobs and close the gap between male and female job differences. This shows that they don’t usually do the same types of jobs. Now the difference between how they deal with things, Poetic a Yahoo top contributor explains, “Key differences include insecurity and more importantly how they deal with insecurity. An average man and woman have about the same amount of insecurity. The difference is that a woman will openly discuss this among close friends in an attempt to get over them and will often feel better. However, a man keeps them as a top secret. He usually will not even discuss them with the closest of friends, unless it is a girl, because if a man ever admitted feelings of insecurity to another man, he would get laughed at incessantly, most likely. A woman, however, would not see them as a weakness and would be far more understanding. The way that men deal with insecurity is by trying to be the best. The biggest and the baddest. They are more likely to hold in emotions and bring down others to gain self-worth. Not that women never do this, but it is often an every day tendency in men, even with the closest of friends. Guys do have a lot of the emotion that women do but are insecure of that type of thing. They are insecure of, well, insecurity, and showing their softer sides, and so mask any insecurity or emotional distress with hardness. Men and women are quite similar, actually, but men just feel an instinctive need to be tough and avoid emotions whereas women tend to embrace emotions and have physical insecurities instead.” Technically this starts with school, in the article “ challenges a women face” it mentions how studies have shown that teachers give more attention and time in math ans science to boys, while giving more to girls in language arts. Since math and science are vital skills for many male-dominated professions, like medicine, engineering, and architecture, this encourages little girls to focus on other areas of learning, which ultimately impacts the academic path girls and boys choose after elementary. Which might also explain the wage gap between genders, job that require math and science are the ones with higher earnings while the ones that require English would be things like secretaries and teachers and as we know they don’t earn as much as doctors or scientist do.

As mention earlier women don’t want to do certain things men traditionally have to. Things including; paying for a guy, lifting heavy objects as a job, give presents to their significant other, propose, ask out on a date, open the doors, among others. Many would argue, that guys do that as a sign of respect they are simply being gentlemen. I would say why do men have to be the ones “serving” the women when they could also be “ gentlewomen toward a man. Why not pick up your husband from work and open the door for him to come in? Why not tell the boy you like if he wants to go on a date with you, and even ask him to be your boyfriend? Why not propose to the man you have been dating for years? I mean after all women say they want to be equal, why not step into the shoes a man would normally have on.?

How about the things men would probably like to have but don’t because they are “guys”. A man doesn’t get to have the experience of motherhood, that is something that no matter what we do it will never change, not many get fraternity leave, they don’t get to whine about how hard their job is because they will be seen as weak. Do women also want to go through that in order to be equal?

 when I asked Martha Sanchez, a feminist, highly involved in her community about women equality she responded " Women are not equal to men because we have the tendency to talk over problems instead of going to war. As victims of war, exploitation and social inequalities we have the tendency to approve laws that would benefit social welfare than financing the military industry.
participate less in elections, they trust the stronger and tough candidate in comparison with women that approve candidates that show emotions and compassion when they talk about social issues .They don't ask for higher job positions because they prefer to be close to their families, than being slaves of their work obligations. They want to expend more time with their kids than pursuing contracts and having dinner with their bosses.
Women are not ready to promote globalization and U.S. democracy in other countries because that involves displacement of families, taking over natural resources and changing social policies that could favor U.S Corporations. Women are weak by nature, they are better nurturing their kids than conducting international business no matter where and how.
think like a men...They have to show power and control. That's what we need in this country ... Power, control and safety!we only want the power to control the external factors that could threat our family safety...poverty, people dictating how we can use of bodies, social and political disenfranchisement and a crazy dictator as our president". coming  from  someone who believes in quality between both genders is pretty shocking to see  how she also believes  that  there  are many factors  that are stopping this from happening.

 

Lets face it, as a society we leave in a culture where we grow up thinking women belong in the kitchen because during Christmas Santa would bring us kitchen toys, we were expected to be stay at home moms because we received dolls that cried and had to change their diapers in order for them to stop. While boys were expected to become doctors by getting doctor kits, crime investigator kits. You never saw boys playing with makeup saying t hey wanted to be makeup artist when they grow up, and we never saw a girl getting her fathers suitcase and saying “ I need to go work so I can marry a guy and I can take care of him”

women and men are a little different physically, but they are the most different mentally. Our mentality is hard to change because that is how we grew up, that is how we live day to day, that is what society tells us and what the media says. Women are not ready to step up and be a “man” and men are fine the way they are, they don’t want to become a little more “feminine”. With this way of thinking equality is far seen from now.